OFM’s Ask a Coach with Ingomu January 2023

Welcome to Ask a Coach, where Ingomu coaches answer your questions about life, work, wellness, or matters of the soul. Share your question with us at coaches@ingomu.com, and we’ll answer them here. 

For this edition, we’ve received lots of questions about New Year’s resolutions, so we invited our coaches to share their top tips for making meaningful resolutions. And, if your resolution is to not make any resolutions, then we hope these will inspire you.

For Life 

My tip for 2023 around dating and relationships is to create a few small, doable goals that are a stretch yet still feel good and possible. Don’t create too many goals, as it can overwhelm you and become unattainable. Remember to give yourself lots of compassion, grace, and generosity when forwarding your dating and love life goals, as this area can be very emotionally charged. Then, celebrate each small milestone you achieve because the small steps create a big step forward towards a fun dating life and fulfilling love life. 

– Coach Suzanne Muller

Speak kindly to yourself, and acknowledge your wins. Maybe in the past, you’ve stumbled and struggled to reach your goals in the New Year, and you felt ashamed, never fully measuring up to what you had hoped. This year, choose to chase your goals while operating from a place of compassion, kindness, and celebration rather than shame or regret. 

Look for your wins each day—Nothing is too big or small to celebrate! Whether you’re developing new rhythms with your family, jumping back into the workforce postpartum, experiencing a new aspect of being a parent, or trying to create a routine of self-care, acknowledge each moment of success. You talk to yourself more than anyone else does… Are you speaking encouragement, understanding, and kindness toward yourself, or are you using negativity, shame, or pressure to push you forward? Speak to yourself the same way you’d speak to someone you love—a child, spouse, partner, friend, or family member. Create space for self-compassion, and celebrate all the big and little moments that are building the foundation for your success. 

– Coach Carli Ward 

For the Soul 

You are a powerful, electromagnetic being. Your thoughts and intentions are the electric signals that you send out into the world. Your feelings and emotions are magnetic vibrations that attract people and experiences to you. Pay attention to your feelings; listen to your heart, and follow your intuition, the voice of your soul. You have the power to combine your clear intentions and positive thoughts with the power of love and uplifting emotions to create what your heart desires in your relationships and life. Learn how to manifest your healthy love and life goals and dreams from the inside out in 2023. 

– Coach Sophia Rose, MCLC 

Pay attention to every thought. You are what you think you are, no exceptions. Become your best stream of consciousness every day in 2023 and beyond. Learn how to make your 2023 New Year’s resolutions manifest through your personal powers and tools of creative visualization. 

– Coach Steve Reinhart, Energy Healer, RMT, ARC

For Wellness

My advice for 2023 is to slow down and live life a little bit more mindfully and consciously. Taking just a few moments to slow down and grounding yourself in the moment, be it five to 10 minutes in the morning after you wake up or just a few minutes during the day (whatever time you have), to connect with your breath and fully being in the moment rather than rushing to the future will be a game changer. 

The decisions and actions that come from a calm, centered and grounded place within yourself about your work, relationships, or even your next meal or drink are much more sound, satisfying, and authentic of your true identity than the ones that come from a state of rush, hustle, and stress. So center yourself a few times during the day by connecting to your breath and grounding yourself in the moment. 

– Coach Neelofer Basaria, DrPH

When you have more money, you have more choices. Find tools and the support to help you develop more supportive money habits. The changes you seek are expressed with your New Year’s resolutions. This change doesn’t live in your willpower; it lives in your habits.

– Coach Jen Nash

For Work

In 2023, commit to a “One Thing Process” every day. Identify the one thing you will focus on and accomplish each day. Take the actions to complete that one thing early in the day when you’re fresh. Then tackle the rest of your day as needed, planned, or scheduled. 

– Coach Sylvia Henderson, MBA

Here at Ingomu, we uplift humankind by making a positive difference in the lives of many. Via the Ingomu app, we provide holistic and equitable coaching in the areas of life, soul, wellness, and work. Coaching for everyone because everyone matters. 

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