Top 10 Gay Relationship Misconceptions

Sometimes gay myths and misconceptions may initially seem true, but take the time to look at your own beliefs about them and how they may negatively impact your motivation to find great connections.

It’s always about sex
Not all of us are c*ck-hungry sluts on the constant hunt to get off. As sexual beings, there is also nothing wrong with acknowledging when someone turns us on or we want to explore parts of their bodies.

My partner won’t understand
Don’t use this as an excuse to cheat on someone or avoid talking about something difficult or uncomfortable. It’s more important to have effective communication and honest agreements about what each person wants. Taking the time and effort to have tough conversations is important to the strengthening and continued success of relationships.

Online dating sites, phone applications, and hookup sites are a waste of time Unfortunately, there are times where it absolutely feels like this, but all of these methods provide the potential to meet someone worthwhile. Work on using these technologies to provide some introductory opportunities and move into actually meeting in person for some real interaction.

Sex is easy to find, but meaningful connections are difficult
The connections we make throughout our lives are fantastic regardless of how they are initiated or built upon. Relationships can grow through getting to know someone during a walk around a museum, chatting on a dinner date, or curled up watching a movie after throwing each other around and getting sticky together. Regardless, work on getting to know people beyond a surface level.

Gay men don’t grow up
Even Peter Pan had moments of being responsible and looking to the future. Although some of us seem to be stuck in a perpetual party cycle, hopefully we’re taking time to build the stable structure for a successful life while having tons of fun along the way.

Non-monogamous relationships have less of a chance of long-term success
Not all open relationships are destined to fail, just as not all monogamous ones are destined to get boring. It comes down to finding others who share important core beliefs and hopes for the future. Commonalities bond us together while honesty builds trust in any relationship, regardless of its structure.

Gay men aren’t capable of being faithful
It’s extremely important to have rules in place and for all parties involved agree to follow them. And remember: Agreements are only as good as the integrity of those purporting to follow them.

Good relationships are extremely hard to find
Maybe finding that magical combination of qualities that motivates us to fall in love is rare, but fortunately great connections come in many forms. Having great friends and support systems are incredibly important to building a happy life.

Nothing but random sex can found online
Having online profiles and chatting with people only supports efforts to make some type of initial contact with someone. What you do with that connection is up to the participants. Meet someone for something other than screwing if that supports your desires. Make sure you offer enough information about what you want.

There is no one out there for me
Your attitude has a profound impact on the ability to achieve anything. Creating a relationship with someone encompasses many things including finding compatibility with interests, long-term plans, handling conflict, celebrating successes, enjoying time together, and facing life’s challenges. Sometimes, it’s more about keeping your eyes open paired with a positive attitude that keeps you motivated to continue meeting people for great connections.