When you offer to help someone in any way and don’t state upfront that you are expecting something in return, then this offer is a gift. Is it fair for the giver to hold a gift against someone down the road
If benevolence is accepted as a gift, it is a wonderful and uplifting experience for all involved. But if the beneficiary receives it as her or his due – as something owed by you or the Universe in general – it sours the whole process.