gay relationship advice
In a gay world — full of perversity and diversity — our tastes and turn-ons are just as complex and varying as they are for any other group of people.
Many of us think that stereotypes are great tools in protecting us from harm, but they can also keep us in negative and judgmental places.
Many of us have struggled with addictions: alcohol, drugs, tobacco, sex, eating, working out, or…
We’ve all been lied to. We’ve been told that to ‘give up’ shows weakness. It’s not necessarily true. I’ve actually improved my life by learning to give up, and I believe that we can all benefit from this philosophy; it’s definitely not the easy way out.
Keeping healthy and positive beliefs about ourselves and our surroundings helps us get up every day ready to engage with our lives – but some clichés keep us from searching for things that make us successful and happy. Be careful about using these as an excuse for not getting off your butt and improving your life. Remember, words have an impact on us whether spoken or thought.
I think there are three areas where gay ideals could set straight people up to be more holistically healthy, honest and introspective.
For the first time in my life, I felt that I was in a city surrounded by my tribe. Each trip to San Francisco impacted me in different ways: The first time I had a breakdown at the airport returning home and semi-frequently for the following few weeks after returning to “normal” life. For a long while, I toyed around with moving there or to another city that provided more of a central gay population, a wider social life and the opportunity to exist in a unified gay commune.
I have an anxiety disorder and have a prescription for a medicine I take if I’m having a panic attack. My boyfriend doesn’t have anxiety but sometimes likes to take my pills for fun, always asking me for some, or sometimes just popping them when I’m not around. He’s not addicted or taking whole bottles, and I don’t think abusing this medication is much worse than using marijuana or for an underage person to drink alcohol. I just hate how he treats my disorder like a fun chance to get high, because I treat it very seriously. I don’t want to seem stingy or conservative. How should I handle the situation?
A guy wants to hook up with me, and I think the sex would be amazing. But he has a boyfriend he already cheats on sometimes.
Dear Brent,
I met a guy online and we hit it off. The sex is OK, but what makes this relationship different and special to me is how much we have in common and enjoy each other’s
