Self-defeating behaviors quickly become course of life

Why Am I here?

One of the age old questions, isn’t it?

From time-to-time, especially during those most challenging moments, we all ask ourselves this question. It is part of our deepest existential concerns and at the same time, so often has very shallow answers. It is so very easy to come up with all the “doing” responses, right? I am here to be a friend, a father, a lover, a co-worker, a this, a that or the other thing.

But all the things that I do in the world do not answer the question at a level that makes my heart sing.

“Why I am here?” speaks to purpose. It speaks to the gift I bring to the world which has so very little to do with what I’m doing and everything to do with who I am being. I had love and relationship guru Arielle Ford on my radio show recently and we spoke about relationships and the core truth that you find in relationships exactly who you are. Our relationships, in particular that one romantic relationship, are always that perfect reflection of who we are – who we are being.

Arielle talked about all the self-defeating behaviors that we embrace and embody during the course of our lives. They become our core beliefs and prevent us from being the kind, loving, compassionate person we know we are truly called to be. And of course, so long as we are stuck there, we will never attract someone with those qualities as our soulmate.

Arielle believed, as I do, that the difference between those who stay stuck and those who set themselves free can be as simple as engaging a coach or mentor to help get you started. Most of us do not need therapy and a lifetime of counseling. If there is something in your life that you would change, but you feel stuck, the chances are all you need is a little guidance to get the ball rolling. Three of four months of coaching might be all you need to start moving in the right direction.

We all spend way too much time living the old definition of insanity. If you keep doing the same things over-and-over again, why would you ever expect anything to change or be different? Set the wheels in motion to make change in your life. Leave those old limiting behaviors behind and move on to that next highest vision of who you really came here to be. Sit down and ask yourself what bad habit you would most like to relinquish.

Now think of ways you might start to move in that direction. If you can’t get yourself motivated or started, find a coach who can help you make the commitment and keep you accountable. None of us are in this alone – we can all use a little help once in a while. Namaste’.