When to Run Away

As we have opportunities to meet a variety of people throughout our lives, we may find some them intriguing enough to date. They can turn us on, share fun moments, become involved with our friends, and add to our overall enjoyment by giving us someone consistent to curl up with. Unfortunately, we may also find that these people aren’t the right choice for us for many reasons. They may want to be moving in different directions or be a completely tragic basket case.

Often, the honeymoon period happens, and it seems like you could talk or text all the time, never get enough of each other, not want to argue, or think of a problem that could not be conquered. Unfortunately, reality sinks in and we realize that every relationship has its unique sets of challenges and conflicts. The idea that we won’t have issues in relationships is unrealistic, but there is a limit to how much we are willing to put up with before we pick up our toys and leave.

There are certain things like physical abuse or cheating that may make it easier for people to call it quits with someone, but other negative situations can make it difficult to determine if leaving is the best option. A partner’s lack of motivation, drug use, bitchy attitudes, poor communication, or lame friends may cause us to question whether to end it or try to make it work.

There are often times where our inner voice tells us that a situation is not good, but we use our powers of justification to keep us from making the move we feel is best. Hoping that someone will change often doesn’t work and we are left feeling resentful and trapped. If individuals are not willing to make compromises in relationships and work on things that cause conflict, long-term potential won’t be a reality. Only through people’s focus on changing does it work.

On a darker side, there are also those people who lie to us and tell us what we want to hear to get what they want. As we come to realize that we may have been deceived, the person we have fallen for becomes less of a reality and more of a detriment to our fulfillment. This dishonesty may get us to fall for them, but a false image can’t be sustained for long and these people will eventually show their true colors to us.

How many times do we have to eat at a bad restaurant before deciding there are probably better options out there to satisfy our hunger. It is important to balance the need to work through issues in relationships with identifying when these issues are simply not worth the effort it can take to solve them. It can be difficult to know how much work should go into a failing situation before you decide that your dedication to it is a failing venture. It can be difficult to admit that you invested a significant amount of time, money, and effort into making this relationship work, but if your situation is not fulfilling, then you are also not exploring ways to make your life better.

I think it was a very wise man that brought up the point that it is important to know when to hold’em, when to fold ‘em, know when to walk away, and know when to run screaming like a little kid that just felt a huge spider crawling up their leg. For every day, week, or year you are in a relationship that is not fulfilling you, you are wasting time and energy. We are on this planet for a relatively short amount of time and I believe that we need to make every day count while working toward creating an amazing life. l