OFM’s Ask a Coach with Ingomu :: February 2023

Welcome to Ask a Coach, where Ingomu coaches answer your questions about life, work, wellness, or matters of the soul.

For this edition, we’ve compiled the best takeaways from our Ingomu Coach Panels at the December 2022 #BeMore Days Conference. We’re sharing their top tips for life, soul, wellness, and work here and hope to inspire you. Share your question with us at coaches@ingomu.com, and we’ll answer them here.

From the Life Panel 

If you are struggling with self-doubt, make a list of five wins every day. Ask yourself,  “What am I proud of accomplishing today? What did I do today that went well?”

– Coach Carli Ward

Surround yourself with people who are encouraging, supportive, and loving, (people) who can get you through the ups and downs. Surround yourself with great people who can celebrate with you but can also help you when you get stopped.

– Coach Suzanne Muller

Before jumping into setting goals, focus on your starting point. Where are you? Are you in a good place? Where do you really want to go? Make sure you are setting goals based on where you are in your life.

– Coach Maria Kaylor

From the Soul Panel

In our culture, there is often a resistance to slowing down. It’s really important to calm our nervous system as a regular practice alongside a meditative practice as part of daily hygiene practices, understanding that we have the tools to lower reactivity and triggers.

– Coach Jacqueline Delibes,  HearthMath Certified Coach

All goals matter. Nothing is coming (to us) without reason. Every goal is a teacher. Listen to your teachers. Once you’ve done that, add power to the goal by using this exercise. Think about the goal, and name it in the present tense. Extrapolate what your life will be like, one year, three years, five years, seven years, as this goal manifests. What do you need to do to support it? When in doubt, meditate on it! 

– Coach Steve Reinhart,  Energy Healer, RMT, ARC

The goals and the dreams that you have are there for a reason, and you are meant to follow them. The seed of your soul’s destiny and your soul’s desire are already within you.

– Coach Sophia Rose, MCLC

 From the Wellness Panel

Try to avoid unnecessary busyness, especially in parenting. We do so much out of guilt and obligation and expectations. Let some of that go. It is OK to say no. It is OK to not be busy. It is OK to not do everything that everyone wants you to do. I promise that when you slow down,  spend time with your kids, spend time with yourself, you will be more successful at hitting the goals you set for yourself. 

– Coach Lisa Freeman, MA, LPC

Take small steps. Instead of getting overwhelmed with goals, make it simple. And, as you achieve the small steps, gradually, you will be able to work towards your bigger goals. Surround yourself with people who support you, who have your back.

– Coach Neelofer Basaria DrPH

Know your priorities. When you know what your priorities are, you know what you are committing to. After that, the only question is, how? If you have more than three things listed, you do not have priorities. Once you know your priorities, you can develop a plan.

– Coach Stephanie Braden, MFP-C, CES, PES

From the Work Panel

If you think about equity, representation, and inclusion. It starts with yourself, and it starts by reflecting on what is important to you, what kind of world do you want to live in? And, exploring our own shadow beliefs, educating ourselves in order to move forward.

– Coach Kimberley Kennedy, PhD

Get comfortable with discomfort. You may not like the way someone is doing something, but that doesn’t mean it’s the wrong way. The more you learn about yourself, you will allow yourself to learn about others. And, the more you have an open mind and willingness to learn about others, and be open to do things a different way, the better you will be able to communicate and work effectively with others.

– Coach Anjanette Sullivan, MA

Don’t beat yourself up for not accomplishing a goal you had for the week. See yourself being, doing, and having a goal. Experience it as if it is already yours and before you know it, it will be. 

– Coach Joyce Gioia, MBA, CMC, CSP, FIMC

Get it on the calendar, and take action to do it! If you get it on the calendar, that is at least one step accomplished. Also, make a consistent appointment with yourself (to work on goals).

– Coach Sylvia Henderson, MBA