How to deal with bareback pressure

Let’s start this off with a slight refresher to my opinions on bareback sex. I am not a fan of it. I don’t do it unless I am in a monogamous relationship, and I know my boyfriends status on all STD’s. My body is my temple, and I do not want to do it any harm for a few minutes of pleasure.

On the apps, it’s easy to weed out the ones who refuse to use protection. I simply continue browsing thumbnails until I find someone who’s interests match mine. But all of that goes out the window when you meet someone at a bar. It’s a totally different atmosphere, and the conversations are vastly different. There’s no discussion about what each person is “into.” There’s no exchange of pictures. It’s a natural attraction between the two people, and hopefully a ride to either’s home.

It’s all going well, and clothes are coming off, lips are touching body parts, the fresh smell of poppers fills the room, and he tries to stick it in. Once the mention of protection comes up, he backs his face away from yours and says, “I can’t keep my dick hard with a condom.”

Bareback pressure is a very real thing. It’s also the biggest turn off during sex, and puts the one being pressured in a very uncomfortable situation. There’s obviously an attraction between the two parties involved, and when one man puts a halt on the fun for selfish reasons, the other feels the need to succumb and continue having fun.

The pressure you feel, is nothing compared to the weight of whatever disease they may, or may not, be carrying in that cum they so desperately want to flood your insides with. You can never fully trust the soft whispers of a trick. No matter how well the man is dressed, or how white his teeth are, he could be harboring a a secret in the twinkle in his eye.

Refresher: You are most likely to get HIV from someone who doesn’t know they have it. At least 20 percent of those with HIV in the U.S. don’t know they have it. Those that know their status, take the proper precautions to protect those that don’t. It’s the law. Not to mention, there are people out there who are willingly spreading the disease through lies and deceit, but that’s a whole other story on its own.

So what do you do when this problem comes up? There are four easy steps.

1.) Keep it fun and light when they ask to go bareback. Don’t spoil the mood because you are offended, but give them a response that shows you still want to have sex, but only with a condom.

2.) If they continue to press the issue, get more serious about it. Lay down the law, and be strong in your conviction.

3.) If they still refuse to put on a condom, not all hope is lost. Just propose that you switch positions, and you’ll wear the condom. Or just settle for something that isn’t anal sex.

4.) If that doesn’t work, leave the situation.

Do not let these funny gifs take away from the seriousness that is bareback pressuring. It’s immoral and sexually indecent. If you don’t feel comfortable with something, don’t let someone pressure you into it. You may regret it later when anal warts perfectly frame your butthole.