HEINZESIGHT: Shopping for High-Quality Guys

Many people feel it’s hard to find guys to spend time with who are interesting, sexy, and leave us wanting more. In our busy lives, it can be difficult to find time in our schedules to meet up with people or go on dates, so when we do make the effort to hang out with someone, we want to ensure that it is worth our investment. There are times when we wonder why we wasted energy engaging with certain people and lose confidence in our ability to choose great people for hanging out. It can seem like many don’t live up to our standards and we are left wanting to pick from a better selection of quality people.

In our culture, dating is much like shopping at a second-hand clothing store. We all have had some type of relationship experiences and can be considered a “used” garment, but hopefully we haven’t outlived our usefulness and can find someone who finds us interesting. There are some people who show less wear-and-tear than others. While some appear to still be fashionable and relevant, others seem out-of-date and you wonder who would have ever had them in the past. You may want to wrap some around you for a warm snuggle up and others may rub you the wrong way after you try them on for a bit. Many look great on the outside until you realize that it is not made as well as it appears or you look at the tag to see that it is constructed out of a crappy material.

Our attempts to meet up with quality people is also akin to shopping. We are looking for someone who is visually interesting that can be had for a good price. There are periods in our lives where we may do a lot of shopping in the hopes of finding something that really thrills us or fits us well. Going out with the purpose of getting something new can sometimes leave us feeling bummed out that nothing really caught our eye. There are other times where you have no intention of shopping, but you run across something pretty cool and figure out it is quite a deal.

Work on the way you shop. Take the time to review your selections before you buy them. There is nothing wrong with trying something on and walking around with it for a bit. Impulse buying can be dangerous. Beware of rushing into buying something that will be a huge financial burden or something you really don’t need. Also, be careful about dismissing something great just because it may be missing a button or have a small tear in the fabric. Even if it isn’t perfect, it may still be a great addition to your closet or fun to wear occasionally.

Keep in mind that those brand-new items or ones that look flawless may not be that great once you start to look at it with more scrutiny. Many times the really pretty ones may fall apart and the well-worn ones are better made. Also, don’t forget to check out the sales racks. Sometimes there is an amazing find that may have been overlooked or mislabeled. Of course, some should remain on the discounted rack, donated to charity, or thrown out because they are damaged beyond repair or really gross.

In the world of fashion and in dating, there truly is something or someone for everyone out there. Some compatibilities are harder to find, but when you do discover something fantastic, get excited about finding it and whip out your credit card. Even though we have our general tastes, be open to a different style that may look good on us. Sometimes, shopping is about going into the right store at the right time to find something great, but it is important to go out with an open mind. You might find something interesting.