Out Front’s guide to throwing a bitchin’ bachelor(ette) party

Amanda Moutinho

The bachelor(ette) party is, theoretically, the last night the bride/groom can really let loose. It’s customary for friends to throw the party, and to have a truly epic night, you have to plan. Here are some tips to get you started:

DO ask the bachelor(ette) what they want. While some peoples’ worst nightmare is a bachelor(ette) craft party or playing video games all night, remember: This party is about the bride/groom. Consider their interests and really think about what will make them happy.

That being said, DO a little pushing. This is the one night in their lives designated to be scandalous and naughty. Brides/grooms get caught up in  weddings stress and want a low-key party, but sometimes they need just a little nudge over the line. It’s about getting them out of their comfort zone and making them blush.

But, DON’T shove them over the line. If the hard limit is no strippers, don’t hire the whole Chippendales brigade. You want the bride/groom to have fun — not be mortified.

For the love of wedding gods, DON’T have the party the night before the wedding. Give them some breathing room to let loose.  No one wants to look hungover in wedding pictures. Plus, movies like “The Hangover” have taught us that you might need some wiggle room to solve problems created by the bachelor(ette) party.

DO get a little cheesy. While there’s a ton of ways to throw a lame bachelor(ette) party, it can be fun to be a bit corny. Consider playing some dirty games, coordinating outfits, truth or dare, risqué scavenger hunt, or naughty gift bags, filled with genital-shaped candy, shooters, cigars,
and condoms.

DO get organized and stay patient. Planning can be a nightmare, especially when you have a group of people with different suggestions and restrictions. DO relax and try to listen. DO communicate the plan. DO take in budget considerations. DO approve the guest list with the bride/groom. DON’T let the bride/groom pay. DO pack in some surprises. DON’T create any drama and DO diffuse any that starts.

DON’T do anything you’ll regret in the morning. Sure you’re kissing singlehood goodbye, but you don’t want to kiss your fiancé goodbye too. Remember to look, not touch. And stay away from any daredevil stunts. (Full-body casts don’t photograph well.)

What to DO

Bachelor(ette) parties can be flexible to fit each bride/groom. Skip Las Vegas — get creative to find the best option for your party. While there are a plethora of bars and clubs to choose from in Colorado, here are some alternate activities you can try instead of (or before) hitting the dance floor. Don’t forget to mention it’s for a bachelor(ette) party; they might throw you some deals.

Get outside: Colorado is full of activities for the outdoorsy bride/groom. Hit the slopes for a snow bunny weekend or, when the weather improves, go for a scandalous camping weekend.

Go to the source: If bars aren’t your scene, head to a brewery tour or a wine tasting. See how your alcohol is made and get drunk in
the process.

Take a class: It’s never a bad time to learn something new. You can find a private class in everything from trapeze to cooking to martial arts. You can even develop a new skill for your honeymoon like striptease or pole dancing.

Boudoir photo shoot: Get dolled up and dressed down. Embrace your sexy side and take some saucy pictures for your significant other to enjoy before or after the wedding.