Breaking Bad Habits

Instead of making a series of New Year’s resolutions hat you will probably break in the first few weeks of January, consider making a promise to yourself to improve the ways you interact with people. We are all slaves to our patterns, but breaking out of them can be extremely beneficial.

Accept yourself
Apologizing for who you are or what you enjoy shows high levels of insecurity. Work on figuring out what really makes you tick, then embrace those things and own them. Work on finding those people who like who you are instead of feeling bad about what you enjoy.

Don’t get butt hurt
None of us like to get rejected, but stop taking it so personally. Pout for a little bit and pick yourself up. There are plenty of people out there. Be careful about getting stuck focusing on the ones who didn’t work out.

Be honest
If you have no intention of following through meeting up with someone or wanting a second date, just let them know instead of blowing them off, blocking them online, or stringing them along. It doesn’t matter if avoidance is an easier option; it’s better to be a truthful person.

Try to hookup for something other than sex
Getting naked with someone can feel great, but looking for a different kind of connection with someone can be fantastic as well. Developing friendships can include sharing interests and other forms of good times — not just humping.

Ask for what you want
Hopefully, we develop the ability to express ourselves appropriately to make others receive our desired message. Be careful about being too subtle or not verbalizing your desires. Regardless of whether it’s a date, a partner, or a friend, let them know what you want, what makes you happy, and what you hope to gain. It’s better than making someone guess.

Don’t be ashamed to show your face
It’s great to have your favorite body parts, but only showing them off and refusing to show your face on social networking sites or cruising apps shows aspects of secrecy and embarrassment. Put yourself out there without apology.

There is nothing wrong with saying hello
It doesn’t matter if you want to screw or not. Being courteous to someone who reaches out with a greeting is a nice thing to do and striking up a conversation with them may benefit you. This person may actually be really interesting.

Be careful what you ask for
Recognize that asking to see someone’s junk or hear about their favorite sexual fantasy could be considered rude. Be cautious of requesting too much or you may risk losing something great before it even has a chance to start.

Don’t assume someone is trying to get in your pants
There are times when someone actually wants to get to know another person for more than just sex. If a person expresses interest in striking up a conversation, be careful about thinking they only want a sweaty exchange. You can take the time to find out without accusing them of stalking you as their sexual prey.

Give someone a chance
It may be unclear at the moment about how this person may fit into your life, but don’t be so rigid to think you know what the future holds. Who knows what other interests you may share or how they can connect you with others? Being open-minded gives you more opportunities.