Ask the sexpert: Party of one!

Jacking or jilling off. Clicking the five-fingered mouse. Ringing Southern bells. Choking the chicken. Playing with Rosie Palm and her five sisters. A little “me” time.

Whatever you call it, we’re talking about good old masturbation.

Masturbation is fun, healthy, safe, and a great way to get to know your body. Enjoy it, and use it to learn more about your likes and dislikes.

You and your partner(s) can masturbate together; either one at a time, or watching each other simultaneously. This is a great way to check out how and where they like to be touched, as well as a form of safer sex, with no fluid contact.

If you’re using toys, make sure they are phthalate free and to lube ‘em up. No one likes dry toys. Also, if you’re putting things in your butt, make sure they have a “flanged based” – ie, the bottom is larger than the top, so you can’t accidentally lose it.

Taking some time to pleasure yourself is the perfect way to explore fantasies, fetishes and likes on your own. Read some erotica or watch some porn that you might not check out with a partner, and see how it makes you feel. This is a safe time to explore your turn-ons (and turn offs!).

Have a question you’d like to ask Shanna? Email ShannaKatz@gmail.com. Questions are kept anonymous.